Many people know and live a “multiple lives” reality. This is above and beyond “Don’t mention politics or hot button issues” in certain situations. Or by just not saying anything because it doesn’t matter and/or to keep the peace. It’s not just refraining from sharing certain parts of yourself. It’s knowing you truly have to put on different pieces for every part of your being to “be presentable” and “go out into the world.” It’s like putting on a spandex costume three sizes too small. Yet, millions do this every day – to support themselves, their families, in avoidance of…
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“Do what you can, with what you’ve got, where you are.” Although this quote is widely attributed to Theodore Roosevelt, he credits it, in his Autobiography, Chapter IX, to Squire Bill Widener of Widener’s Valley, Virginia. I rephrase this a bit to myself all the time. (It’s what I do. And what we should do – make things work for YOU.) I rearrange the phrasing Do what you can, where you are with what you’ve got! We ignore the middle parts of the sentences. Not because we want to or even realize it, but because our brain actually doesn’t care…
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There are choices we make in life. And there are choices we get to make again and again. I was (and continue) to struggle with putting myself “out there.” In person, online, on social media, etc. I came across something I wrote last Spring, which gets to the heart of the matter Why am I afraid to be seen? Why am I afraid of exposing who I really am? I have nothing to fear, nothing to hide.The things that have happened to me, the things that have caused me pain and suffering (and exponential growth) are not my responsibility or…
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Okay, I must admit, last week got kinda depressing… Maybe that’s why I’ve been avoiding writing this post, still in the doom and gloom of the last one… Start of recap: Pervasive Self-Care Myth: You deserve the *$80 lotion*, *$600 dress*, *$1,200 coffee maker*…whatever your gazingus pins are. I’m going to use lotion here for this example… Continuation of Pervasive Self-Care Myth: “Yes, you could use the $10 drugstore lotion. But isn’t it so much better (And don’t you feel so better?) when you use the pricey $80 bottle that smells like gardens and money?” Because: THINGS are just that…
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(but this time it’s not about lotion) I get anxious about a lot of things. You would never know it to look at me. And honestly, you will likely never hear me say it when it happens. But I do get it. And I do have thoughts. And these thoughts definitely tie into this (though it’s not about the lotion.) It’s about how we all still think – this + that = this result – no matter the circumstances, timing, or the MYRIAD OF MILLIONS of other factors that influence a result. I am currently in a health program –…
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Last week I talked about the myth below and how it’s bogus. Pervasive Self-Care Myth: You deserve the *$80 lotion*, *$600 dress*, *$1,200 coffee maker*…whatever your gazingus pins are. I’m going to use lotion here for this example… Continuation of Pervasive Self-Care Myth: “Yes, you could use the $10 drugstore lotion. But isn’t it so much better (And don’t you feel so better?) when you use the pricey $80 bottle that smells like gardens and money?” Because: THINGS are just that (things!) and the MAGIC is us. AND… THINGS matter. “Wait, didn’t you just say that THINGS are just THINGS…”…
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Pervasive Self-Care Myth: You deserve the *$80 lotion*, *$600 dress*, *$1,200 coffee maker*…whatever your gazingus pins are. I’m going to use lotion here for this example… Continuation of Pervasive Self-Care Myth: “Yes, you could use the $10 drugstore lotion. But isn’t it so much better (And don’t you feel so better?) when you use the pricey $80 bottle that smells like gardens and money?” I won’t even go into how much garbage (chemicals and millions of things you shouldn’t put on your skin) is in the $80 lotion of gardens and money. (Or the $10 drugstore lotion but that’s a…
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Are you being questioned and pushed? Is there any point in it? Maybe I just tell myself this to make myself feel better. To keep me from screaming bloody murder on a regular basis. Or maybe I’m onto something. Odds are good you are a human being who disagrees with another human being. About something. Maybe vehemently disagree. Maybe you are baffled that this human could ever think “XYZ” when you think “ABC.” And those two things cannot be mutually exclusive – you can both agree on that at least! And maybe (I’d put some money on it) the person…
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As I’ve mentioned before, we can tell. Why are we out here doing this internet thing? And why do I keep repeating myself? Because it bears repeating. Intention matters. As I’ve been clarifying my own path and my own desires, I’ve been digging back to some of my inspirational people. Some still hold the title, some are in a different phase of their journey (and I’m grateful for the time I got to share), some have gone sideways and I’m not sure I even knew the person in the first place. It’s all good – everyone gets to have their…
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I have gotten myself off and on blogs, the social medias and the things so many times throughout my life. Off, On. Off, On. Off, On. Off, On. Even got myself blocked from Instagram since they think I’m a bot. I create stuff, set up websites, etc. Then take great delight in deleting it all and blowing it all away. (Usually in a fit of my “I want to be a hermit and not buy into all this!” rage.) As I (inevitably) start again I ask myself: – What am I doing? – Why am I doing this? – How…